Child Abuse: How Parents contribute to it & controls

In the psychosexual development of a child, there are stages and their different expectations. I'd like to stress a particular stage which very important to observe and acknowledge as a child grows. Permit me.

There is the oral stage, anal stage, phallic stage, latent stage and finally the genital stage.

However for the purpose of this article,  i choose to talk about the phallic stage. The phallic stage of a child explains that a child is bound to be erotically attracted or attached to the opposite sex right about between the ages of 3 and 6.
The boy experiences the Oedipus complex (by Sigmund Freud) and girl child experiences Electra complex (by Carl Jung). Commonly, you find the boy jealously attached to the mother and the girl attracted to the father. Interestingly, you can also find them attached to other people of opposite sex especially familiar ones.

Now, some children have been victims of abuse partly due to these complexes.
My strong advice goes thus:

Paedophillic Daddies, please and please do not abuse your child, don't go blaming your child for being to attached to you. They are innocent, you were once at that stage. Respect their development. She is just too young to understand your personal troubles.

Responsible daddies, take good care of your children, get them off the laps of uncles, neighbors, friends and well wishers. it's not a playground.

Uncles, please regardless of your relationship with that child's parent(s), wave at her and keep her genitals out of your business.

Cousins, let extended families stay extended and if possible overstretched. Don't touch them, allow them grow first, form friendship later in life.

For family friends and randy neighbors, stick to your base and stay out of that girl's pant, stop luring her with candies and cookies.

Finally, mothers. I mean responsible mothers.

- Please form a healthy lasting relationship with your children. Be their best friend. Build their confidence. You will need it

-Keep watch on your children (both sexes). They are never too old for that.

-Teach your children about their genitals and why they carry different features on it

-Listen to them. Don't thrash their words. They are very vital

-Let them know they can tell whatever bothers them. Whatsoever at all!

-Let them know that their sex organs are not to be touched by other people.

-Respect your child.

-They cannot run all errands. They are young.

I am penning this down for the everyone out there who probably do not know why a child is clingy at the first sight of them. More importantly, to save our voiceless innocent children from abuses. #NO #TO #CHILD #MOLESTATION