6 Things to do when your Spouse is cheating

Curiosity,  suspicion, and finally confirmed that he/she is cheating, is something no one deserves, because it is the state of almost going crazy. But, there are still stuffs to be considered so quick and harsh decisions won't be made. 

Consider there six things before doing that you have in mind.

1. Ask a Question like, "Is this relationship worth saving?"

This will take some time after you've processed what happened. One way to figure out whether you should stay together and fight for your love is to be honest about the type partner they are and the sort of betrayal involved. If they're not the kind of person who strays and it seems like it was a one-shot deal, you should try giving them another chance. Ditto if they confess the affair or at least apologize profusely and seem genuinely remorseful once you find out about it.

"Slip-ups happen, but the good news is that when they truly are slip-ups, they're survivable," William July, the author of Confessions of an Ex Bachelor, tells Cosmo.

But if it has happened before, this was more than just a one-time thing (i.e., it was an actual full-blown affair or romantic relationship with someone else), it happened with their ex, or they don't seem the least bit sorry, think long and hard before choosing to stick it out.

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2. Talk it out

"If you decide that you do want to work things out with your guy, you’re going to need to really talk about what happened and why," licensed sex psychotherapist Vanessa Marin tells Bustle. "What was he feeling ... and how did he feel after it happened? I know this step might feel excruciatingly painful, but it’s important for you to hear him out."

Likewise, your partner needs to hear what you have to say when it comes to your feelings about their infidelity, she says. "He has to understand how his actions hurt you, and has to be willing to give your emotions some time and space."

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3. Take a break from each other

This might seem like it could do more harm than good, but even a short break from all contact with your partner after they've been unfaithful can help you regroup and guide you on where to go from here. Without the distraction and hurt that comes with talking to them, especially right after you find out about the cheating, you can begin working through it all with a clearer head.

4. Go to a couple therapy

Sometimes, the only way to communicate effectively about something as painful as cheating is to get an objective, and professional, third party involved. Otherwise, the discussion could escalate into a terrible fight where nothing is resolved and damaging things are said. With someone else in the room, couples dealing with infidelity — or any other relationship woes — often have more success in "fighting fairly" and communicating in a healthy way about what happened and how to fix things.

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5. Get to the core of the issue

Through weeks and months of intense discussions and therapy sessions, where you are really, truly listening to each other about how each of you is feeling along the way, you should be able to get to the bottom of why they cheated. Maybe they were angry with you about something else and didn't know how to express themselves, so they acted out instead. Maybe your relationship was on the brink of getting more serious and they got scared — and the cheating was actually a sign that they saw themselves with you forever. Not only do you need to figure out why the cheating happened but what led to it in the first place and how you both may have contributed. Once you get to the heart of the matter — and neither of you may ever fully grasp all the reasons — you can start to work toward doing what it takes to avoid it in the future.

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6. Forgive, let it go and move on

Embrace an improved, renewed relationship that's more fulfilling, profound and honest than ever before. "You can either handle being vulnerable with your partner again or you can't," says Dr. Phil on his website. "If you can't, you need to get out of this relationship and move on. And if you can, then you need to let him/her earn the trust back and start putting this relationship together again. Forgiveness is a choice."

Chances are, after both you and your partner have done the difficult work of repairing your relationship, you'll come away with a much better understanding of each other and a significantly deeper connection and commitment to each other. That, in turn, will strengthen your love and bring you closer together.