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Watching porn in recent times has been in an alarming rate, as more porn videos are being released everyday. Many are already addicted to porn, and in many ways it has scattered relationships, marriages, made many lose their jobs, reputation, etc. Here are Ten ways a constant watching of Porn is constantly deteriorating your personality.
1. Creates emotional
bond with an Abstract World
All people have a critical need for human intimacy and
emotional connection with others. When someone views pornography, they end up
creating an intimate bond with an artificial, fake world and can actually lose
the ability to bond with real people.
2. Sex without intimacy
Pornography is about sex being used for the wrong reasons.
Because it is sex without emotional closeness, the underlying hunger remains
unsatisfied. The viewer starts wondering what is wrong with their relationships
and gets irritated or depressed. They end up feeling emotionally empty and
disconnected from those around them.
3. Unsatisfying
While pornography use may result in a short term high, it
eventually results in feelings of emptiness, low self-esteem and deep
loneliness. It ultimately creates emotional distance in relationships. Because
the world of pornography is artificial and cannot satisfy the need for
emotional intimacy, this basic need remains unmet, creating an appetite for
more and more.
4. Triggers addiction
cycle in brain
Studies show that actual brain function changes in someone
who has an addiction - and the changes are the same in all addiction: alcohol,
drugs, or pornography. Because pornography use can become an actual addiction,
viewers are not able to stop through their own will power. Pornography addicts
will need to engage in the same difficult recovery process a drug addict has to
go through.
5. Unfulfilling
Using pornography to feel pleasure and escape feelings of
low self-esteem, anxiety, boredom and frustration creates a gateway for
addiction. When the rush of pleasure disappears, the feelings a user is trying
to escape from reappear stronger than ever, and they are compelled to repeat
the cycle. Over time, their brain chemistry is altered and a full-fledged
addiction occurs.
6. Great deception
Initially, you were attracted to pornography because of the
positive things it did for you. ("I love the rush I feel," "This
is my favorite pastime," "I feel lonely," "This is my
reward to myself for making it through a rough day...") Eventually, it
will do just the opposite. ("I no longer feel an emotional response to
anything," "There is nothing in my life I enjoy doing," "I
feel totally isolated from the world," "My anxiety and stress levels
are at an all-time high...").
7. Imitation of the
real thing
With pornography, we use sex as a substitute for nurture,
intimacy, and love. Sex is no longer a wonderful source of connection between
our deepest selves and a beloved partner; it becomes a commodity used to avoid
intimacy and mask needs that should be met through human connections.
8. Always hungry
Because this is an addictive substance, it creates an
appetite for itself. This appetite increases over time as you spend more and
more time viewing pornography. The time spent viewing pornography can
jeopardize work, relationships and interest in healthy pastimes.
9. Escalation
Over time, the pornography we first started viewing becomes
mundane. We escalate to view things which we once would have considered as
going too far or totally wrong. We feel increasing desire to do things which
will damage our reputation and relationships.
10. Blunt truth
In the long run, pornography will not shore up a shaky ego,
will not fill the emptiness left from childhood wounds or abandonment, will not
save a shaky relationship or failing marriage and is not satisfying. In fact,
it will magnify each emotional wound from the past and cripple your ability to
meet your essential emotional needs, damage your ability to have a healthy
relationship and leave you unable to sexually or emotionally respond to your
partner.
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