Marriage is frustrating when the parties involved get almost the opposite of what they had in mind before going into the union. Marriage goes beyond the wedding day, it goes beyond romance, or even having children. But staying married is the major thing involved in every marriage. So before going into it don't forget it is better to be single praying to be married, than to be married praying to be single.
Below are the ten reasons that causes divorce
10. Physical or
Emotional Abuse
Physical or emotional
abuse is a sad reality for some couples. It doesn’t always stem from
the abuser being a “bad” person; deep emotional issues are usually to blame.
Regardless of the reason, no one should tolerate abuse and removing yourself
from the relationship safely is important.
9. Immaturity for
marriage
8. Inequality
When one partner feels that they take on more responsibility
in the marriage, it can alter their view of the other person and lead to
resentment. Every couple must negotiate through their own and unique set of
challenges, and find their own way of living together as two equals who enjoy a
respectful, harmonious and joyful relationship.
7. Poor Intimacy
Not feeling connected to your partner can quickly ruin
a marriage because it leaves couples feeling as though they’re living with a
stranger or more like roommates than spouses. This can be from a lack of
physical or emotional intimacy and isn’t always about sex. If you are
constantly giving your spouse the cold shoulder, then know that over time it
can become the grounds for divorce. Making your relationship intimate and
special is the responsibility of both partners. Practice little acts of
kindness, appreciation and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible to
sweeten your relationship.
6. Unrealistic
expectations
It’s easy to go
into a marriage with lofty expectations;
expecting your spouse and the marriage to live up to your image of what they
should be. These expectations can put a lot of strain on the other person,
leaving you feeling let down and setting your spouse up for failure.
5. Weight gain
It may seem awfully superficial or unfair, but weight gain
is a common reason for divorce. In some cases a significant amount of weight
causes the other spouse to become less physically attracted while for others,
weight gain takes a toll on their self-esteem, which trickles into issues
with intimacy.
4. Frequent Argument
From bickering about chores to arguing about the kids;
incessant arguing
kills many relationships. Couples who seem to keep having the same argument
over again often do so because they feel they’re not being heard or
appreciated. Many find it hard to see the other person’s point of view, which
leads to a lot of arguing without ever coming to a resolution.
3. Lack of
communication
Communication is crucial in marriage and not being able to
communicate effectively quickly leads to resentment and frustration for both,
impacting all aspects of a marriage. On the other hand, good communication
is the foundation of a strong marriage. Yelling at your spouse, not talking
enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express yourself are all
unhealthy methods of communication that need to be ditched in a marriage.
Practicing mindful communication, to change age-old marriage mistakes, can be
hard but it’s well worth the effort
to improve and save your relationship.
2. Finance
Money makes people funny, or so the saying goes, and it’s
true. Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to
one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power
struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point. “Money really
touches everything. It impacts people’s lives,” said Emmet Burns, brand
marketing director for SunTrust. Clearly, money and stress do seem to go hand
in hand for many couples.
1. Unfaithfulness
Extra-marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of
most marriages that end in divorce. The reasons why people cheat aren’t
as cut and dry as our anger may lead us to believe. Anger and resentment are
common underlying reasons for cheating, along with differences in sexual
appetite and lack of emotional intimacy. Infidelity often begins as a
seemingly innocent friendship, says cheating expert Ruth Houston. “It starts as
an emotional affair which later becomes a physical affair”.
Note: Marriage is not easy i must admit, but be aware that you are now one and nothing can separate that fact. So if you really need a happy marriage you must make up your mind for it. be prepared to avoid these 10 points highlighted and then call upon God to take control of the rest.
Increase Chisom
(by marriage.com and edited by Increase Chisom)
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