Every lady has a dream of getting married someday to her
prince charming who will fit into her expectations and who she will live
happily ever after with but before you go ahead into that marriage if your
prince charming is a pastor you really need to get yourself to the under listed
points, Happy reading.
(NB: This post is very long, but is worth reading)
(1 ) GET TO KNOW HIS
AREA OF CALLING:
Before you marry that pastor, you need to ask questions from
him about which aspect of the ministry he is called into, is it deliverance, faith,
healing etc Where is he suppose to function in the body of Christ? You need to
understand his calling very well and get prepared for the task ahead.
(2 ) GOD IS HIS
EMPLOYER NOT THE CHURCH:
Before you mary that pastor, do not expect that because he
is in charge of a large congregation then you will not have financial
challenges, many have the notion that Pastors have free access to Church money
and always get disappointed after marrying him. Note that the Pastor is not the
sole signatory to Church account, the church is not an ATM. You had better be
prepared to spend your personal money on God’s work. If your reason for wanting
to marry that Pastor is money induced, please, cancel your wedding now.
(3 ) PREPARE FOR A
CHANGE
Before you marry that pastor, when you get married to a
pastor, it will obstruct your plans, change your directions and divert your
focus. This doesn't mean that you won't pursue your personal goals but it only
means that you must make accommodations to suite the plan of God for his life
as well..
Beloved, there are values that you will have to uphold,
actions you will not be able to take, sacrifices you will have to make, your
life directions will be significantly affected. How flexible are you?
(4 ) PARTNER IN
SERVICE
Before you marry that Pastor, according to 1 peter 4: 10,
John 13: 13-17, Please, know that you are his partner in service to bless and
meet people’s needs in the Name of Jesus, you are to serve alongside him, do
not go with the mindset that people are to serve you. You must embrace his
ministry, learn under him and give him the total support to Serve God
maximally..
(5 ) LADIES PASTOR
Before you marry that pastor, he will not only be the pastor
of men but of ladies too and some of them will be extremely attractive. So, if
you are a jealous type, you had better marry someone else and quit your
relationship with the Pastor now. This by no means promotes promiscuity.
(6 ) A BIG HEART
Before you marry that Pastor, it is not only a big heart
that makes a pastor’s wife but a big heart growing in the love of the Lord and
towards the Lord Jesus. You must have a large heart to accommodate and manage
different classes of people with varying characters.
(7 ) NO DEPENDENCY
ON PEOPLE FOR AFFIRMATION
Before you marry that pastor, you must erase your dependency
on people for affirmation and increase your dependency on God for approval.
(8 ) RIGHT SPIRIT
Before you marry that pastor, a positive and caring spirit
to serve others will be helpful, you must do away with selfishness and
solo life because a pastor is a man of the people. Mood swings, malice and it's
sorts may not suffice too..
(9 ) SLEEPING ALONE
Before you marry that pastor, the demand of the ministry
might require him to travel for ministerial assignments, meetings, and retreats
which may take him away from you at night.
(10 ) OPPOSE
EXTRAVAGANT LIFESTYLE
Before you marry that Pastor, you must do away with
extravagance lifestyle and be humane. You must not be materialistic lest the church
members detest you
(11 ) ACT OF
HOSPITALITY
Before you marry that pastor, how hospitable are you? A lot
of People will come for counseling in your house and most of them may not be
financially strong but you must be hospitable towards them even if they don't
appreciate what you are doing.
(12 ) PREPARE TO BE
A GLOBETROTTER
Before you marry that pastor, the work of a pastor involves
a lot of transfer from city to city and nation to nation. At times, he may not
spend up to three months in a location before he gets another letter of
transfer. If you don’t like moving from one place to another, quit your
relationship with the pastor now
(13 ) HE HAS A BOSS
Before you marry that Pastor, please understand that he has
a Boss –GOD. Do not expect him to put you ahead of his Boss. Help him to serve
and obey God in all things. Please, don’t push him against God.
(14 ) MAN OF GOD
Before you marry that pastor, please always remember that he
is a man. So, do not assume that been a man of God he does not have sexual urge
and temptations like other men, he does. Maintaining your good looks and shape
is very important for you to be able to keep him from falling into temptations.
(15 ) GOD’S REPRESENTATIVE
Before you marry that
pastor, know that he is not just a man but God’s mouthpiece and His
representative and you must respect and treat him as such, will you be able to?
(16) NO EVERYDAY
ROMANCE
Before you Marry that pastor please understand that Marrying
a pastor comes with its own challenges and one of it is that pastor will pray
at night. So, sorry no everyday romance in a Pastor’s diary.
(17) IT IS A JOB THAT DEMANDS YOUR ATTENTION ALWAYS:
Before you marry that pastor, Please note that a pastor’s
job is a 24 hours of the seven days in the week, it fit the slogan FULL TIME.
There may not be time to go out to your favourite restaurant in a long time
because of the round the clock attention demand from his church members. Can
you cope with this?
(18) NOT AN OIL
WORKER:
Before you marry that pastor, please wake up to the fact
that he is not an oil and gas staff. So, conflict: money may not flow like you
think. Although, God’s staff are the best paid in the world over but will you
be able to wait faithfully for Him to pay? His timing is totally different.
(19) CHURCH CONFLICT:
Before you marry that pastor, Mama in the waiting, there
will be conflict. Yes, even in the church, people disagree and sometimes flesh
might be displayed in a dirty manner. They may form a caucus and gang up
against the pastor. Are you mature enough to handle it?
(20) THE PERFECT
WIFE:
Before you marry that pastor, You will be expected to behave
perfectly, other women have the right to get angry and show it but not YOU,
even your Prince charming expectation will be higher as he expects you not to
demonstrate your displeasure no matter the circumstances. Are you prepared for
this?
(21) THE MUMMY MISSION:
Before you marry that pastor, hope you do not have anything
against living in the mission house especially if he is a pastor in a
denomination where their Pastor must live in the mission house. As much as we
would encourage intimacy and privacy with pastors living away from mission
houses .
please,be inform that the mission house is everybody’s house
as the Church members can walk in at any time, deny you your privacy, eat your
food, exhaust your water, messed up your toilet and you must not complain
because the house is built with their money for them to have unhindered access
to their Pastor.
(22) PRAY FOR ALL:
Before you marry that pastor, the elders, deacons, workers
that hate your husband will be known to you and you still have to pray for them
and with them, can you do this?
(23) FORGIVE AND
FORGET:
Before you marry that pastor, please be informed that you
will be expected to forgive and forget offenses fast so as not to hinder the
Church and the Pastor’s prayer. You must have forgiveness in wholesale because,
members, ministers, deacons, good women, men, girl the youths and elders will
offend you and you must forgive the if you want your husband to excel in his
calling.
(24) PERFECT
PARENTING:
Before you marry that pastor, your children are not expected
to make mistake, display tantrums, be too playful, they are expected to be mini
Angels. God help you, girl if they are not.
You should definitely be ready to personally protect and
preserve the heritage God blessed you with knowing the high handed perversion
in our age and how many children have been abused and defied from their
childhood either due to parental irresponsibility or negligence..
(25) ALL PROGRAMS :
Before you marry that pastor, please note that you will be
forced to attend all Church programs, no excuse of any kind. If not , the
Church will be having negative impression about you.
(26) FASTING:
Before you marry that pastor,
as the pastor mrs, you will fast and this is not a
suggestion but a compulsory thing as it comes with your wedding package.
(27) PRAYER MACHINE:
Before you marry that pastor, be inform that you will pray
when you feel like praying and when you don’t feel like prayer. Prayer must
become your hubby. As you become pastor mrs, you must know how to PUSH. That is
praying until something happens and in the Ministry, we will never stop praying
until Jesus come.
(28) LEAD WOMEN:
Before you marry that pastor, your good women leader might
be as old as your mum, some will try to make you realize that they are older
and want to intimidate you, will you be able to handle them with wisdom?
(29) MEETING,
SEMINARS etc:
Before you decide to marry that pastor, please note that he
will be required to attend many meetings, seminars, and plan, organise revivals, crusades, meetings ,
seminars, etc.
You might be required to organise seminars for women, youths
and pregnant mothers which may be quite big, do you have that capacity? he will
attend some alone will you be fine?
(30) DEMONIC ATTACK:
Finally before you marry that pastor please note that
attacks are directed at the shepherd so expect it, are you equipped enough for
this? Are you a spiritually vibrant sister or a weakling? Do you have that
strong relationship with heaven? Matt 26:31
Sounds scary? Yes you're not superhuman but these are but a few of them..
May God help us...
Anticipate the Balance to this post by next week Sunday, to
the Pastor in Waiting...
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